Last year was probably the ultimate year of change for me. Both in terms of my relationship but also my health. One minute I was plodding along happily (well probably not) and the next I was crying in Tesco and my entire year was flipped.
Change is difficult no matter how big or small.
However last year taught me that sometimes things have to change, sometimes you have to clear the path and make way for things.
I think the main thing for me, is the idea that if you’re not happy with the change then the best way to deal with it is to look at what you can control and what you can do to improve the situation you’re in.
Whether that’s a simple pamper night in to boost your confidence or taking action and looking for a new job/home/partner. Don’t fear the change, just make the most of it, because at the end of the day, (and boy do I hate this saying but) it is what it is.
When I found out I had IBS, I was gutted, it had been a long year and I really wasn’t ready to deal with yet another problem. For a few days I dwelled and felt rubbish, resigned to spending forever being this ill. But in the end I could see that I could either be upset or act and do what I can to handle the change. So I read books, I spoke to friends, I changed my diet. It was difficult but now I look back and I feel so much better and able to handle the thing that I thought would ruin my life.
I’m not saying it’s easy, because we all have days when it’s just too much. But if you can be strong and say to yourself – ‘So I don’t like this situation, how can I change it or what can I do to make it better for me?’.
Have faith that you are perfectly able to handle the change – good or bad. It might feel easier to be grumpy and ‘spit your dummy out’ but if you can, be the bigger person and accept that even though you can’t change things back, you can make the most out of what you’ve been given.
Girl if I can make it through 2018 you can make it through this. (It’s alright I can laugh about it now – mainly) Be brave, be bold and don’t fear change.